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<\/a><\/p>\nRelationships. We\u2019ve all had one, or two\u2026or twenty plus (guilty). It\u2019s fair to say that the age-old tradition of marrying your high school sweetheart is an unfounded fairytale for the majority of us. There\u2019s no shame, I\u2019ve kissed a few toads and I probably liked it.<\/p>\n
At some point, we stumble across somebody different but how do we know when we\u2019ve found the ONE? A lot of my loved-up friends used to tell me \u2018when you know, you know\u2019 but I\u2019m pretty sure this was a cop out because they were too busy sucking face and being in love. Love is undoubtedly complicated and individual to us all \u2013 but I do think there are some signs that indicate that it\u2019s looking pretty good for the two of you (or the three of you, if you\u2019re into that).<\/p>\n
1. Being with them doesn\u2019t feel like a chore.<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019ve had a few relationships where it\u2019s all felt like a bit of an effort. Where spending an entire day with just that one person is a daunting prospect.<\/p>\n \u2018God, I\u2019m going to have to shave my legs and actually get out of bed today?\u2019<\/p>\n \u2018Maybe I can pretend I don\u2019t feel well and have a night to myself?\u2019<\/p>\n These are all thoughts I\u2019ve had. When you\u2019re with the right person, these just don\u2019t come in to play. Sure, we all still enjoy our own space from time to time but generally you should look forward to being around the person you love. You want to make an effort for them because you care what they think. Until the point you\u2019re so comfortable with each other you can slack on the shaving and they\u2019ll think your sexy as anyway.<\/p>\n 2. Their bad habits don\u2019t make you want to stab them\/yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n Alright, so maybe their snoring evokes daydreams of suffocating them with a pillow or their knuckle-cracking earns them a slap on the wrist and a \u2018stop that\u2019, nobody is perfect. But a wise man (or woman) once said it\u2019s the imperfections that make a person perfect and I\u2019m a believer of this theory. If you\u2019re going to spend the rest of your life with someone, you learn to accept them for who they are, nail biting and all. Maybe you even start to find their little habits cute\u2026<\/p>\n 3. You have fun doing literally nothing with them.<\/strong>There\u2019s no need to make any big plans or fill your days with adventures and stuff to keep you busy. Comfortable silences can exist between you. After the dating stage is over and the funds dry up, there will be a lot more \u2018snacks and Netflix nights\u2019 going on and in my opinion, these are some of the best.<\/p>\n 4. They\u2019re the first person you turn to (Mum not inclusive). <\/strong><\/p>\n Maybe you had a bad day, maybe you\u2019re stressed with work or maybe some dickhead driver cut you up and pushed you over the edge into an emotional tidal wave of fury. Whatever the reason, they\u2019re the person you think of calling or texting. They know exactly what to say because they know you better than anyone else.<\/p>\n 5. They bring out the best version of yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n In the same way that some people bring out our worst qualities, like that prick at work who seriously induces murderous thoughts, the right person can bring out our better sides. For me, it\u2019s my kinder and softer side and I tease that my other half wasn\u2019t funny \u2019til they met me. Whatever it is, if someone makes you a better version of yourself, they\u2019re probably worth keeping around.<\/p>\n Tonight Matthew, I\u2019m going to be an even more fabulous version of myself.<\/p>\n 6. You don\u2019t keep significant secrets.<\/strong><\/p>\n Alright, so you don\u2019t have to tell them that you thought their one off attempt at cooking was awful, or that you sometimes devour share size portions of chocolate all to yourself \u2013 but you don\u2019t feel the need to keep any big secrets from them. Even if it\u2019s about mistakes you\u2019ve made or things you worry people would usually judge you for; you\u2019re comfortable enough with them to let them see the real you and confident that they\u2019ll still love you anyway. LIKE IT OR LUMP IT BITCH.<\/p>\n 7. You\u2019re happy to let them live their own lives.<\/strong><\/p>\n If you feel the need to put a GPS tracker in their mobile just to keep tabs, it\u2019s probably already over. A funcitioning relationship is centered around trust and respect. It\u2019s healthy to do things separately from time to time.<\/p>\n 8. You are willing to compromise. <\/strong><\/p>\n If you want to date someone who agrees with you on everything, date yourself. There\u2019s nothing sexier than someone who is willing to challenge you, a strong debate settled with some make-up sex is the stuff dreams are made of. Though on more serious stuff, you\u2019re willing to meet them half way on matters. Maybe they have an interest in something you think is totally shit but you\u2019ll share the interest with them now and then, because it makes you happy to see them happy, n\u2019aw\u2026.<\/p>\n 9. You\u2019re not keeping safety nets<\/strong><\/p>\n If you find yourself making back-up plans, or keeping someone on the side just in case it ever goes wrong, it\u2019s probably a sign something is wrong with this one.<\/p>\n 10. You know they\u2019d do all of the above for you too.<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019m not saying all of these are essential but if you\u2019re hitting the majority, I\u2019d say it sounds like a good thing. If your relationship is anything like these ones<\/a>, thriving on a foundation of laughter, then congratulations and I\u2019ll buy a hat.<\/p>\n<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n