Some men can only get sex if they pay for it. Women kind has rejected them and they have no hope of love and long-term relationship. Would you deprive them of any fulfillment?<\/p>\n Would you condemn them to a life devoid of sensual touch from a consenting adult? Do you know what it’s like to need love (physical and otherwise) so badly for so long and only be able to get it for pay?”<\/p>\n The basic premise is the familiar one, that “men NEED sex” whereas women can take it or leave it. In high school this was expressed as the Blue Balls Theory: “If you don’t let me do it my balls will turn blue and I’ll get sick and die.”<\/p>\n Sex Ed teachers patiently debunked this tired old story, with much giggling from the girls — and blushing and window-staring among the boys.<\/p>\n The thing that makes human beings human is that we can take or leave most anything, that is, we are more than the sum of our biological processes. Human beings are capable of actions and strategies and priorities that have nothing to do with the 3-F logic of the animal world (Food-Fight-Fuck).<\/p>\n A tomcat for example is literally a genome robot: he has no conscious control over his need or compulsion to follow a female in heat, or his need to compete and battle with other toms to impregnate her. Human beings are different in that (in theory) we’re capable of placing a layer of civilization, social convention, and individual idiosyncrasy on top of our evolutionary imperatives, even to the point of obscuring them completely.<\/p>\n So, on the strictly biological level you can agree with the guy who says “men really do need sex”, but only to this extent: in the mammalian realm, including the larger primates of which we are one, the male generally demonstrates a compulsive reproductive initiative.<\/p>\n Maximizing the range and number of inseminations does seem to be a common mammalian male strategy. Furthermore, mating behaviour among the Mammalia is so closely associated with dominance display (such that males will mock-mate with one another to express dominance orders), that it’s very difficult if not impossible to disentangle the male’s drive for reproductive success from his drive to express dominance and strive for higher rank. Dominance and rank seem to be a pretty powerful — and related — drive.<\/p>\n On the other hand, who wants to live like an elephant seal — or closer to home, a chimp or even a gorilla? Yes, we are primates, and it’s tough to explain some of our behaviour if you deny that (unless you credit demonic possession. But we’re also human, and humans are significantly different from most other species.<\/p>\n A simple example: normal animals cling to life until the last possible moment regardless of suffering or hopelessness; human beings are capable of deciding that it makes more sense to die. A human can look ahead six months and say “I have liver cancer, I’m going to die in horrible pain inside a half-year if I don’t do something about this; and shooting myself seems a better alternative to me.” An animal doesn’t look ahead that far, and never gives up — a fatally wounded animal still struggles to escape, even though the struggle is meaningless. Shooting yourself in the head after a diagnosis of advanced liver cancer is a very human thing to do.<\/p>\n A human being is also capable of actions that don’t involve just our developed time sense and the evasion of future pain, disgrace, or humiliation … that may even commit us irrevocably to all three. A human being is capable of:<\/p>\n Well, you get the point. All of these behaviours are insane from the strictly evolutionary, biomechanical point of view. They involve motives far removed from the exigencies of daily individual or group survival.<\/p>\n An animal might chew its forefoot off to get out of a leg-hold trap, or take enormous risks to save a juvenile of its own species. Only a human would chew its leg off to uphold the doctrine of the Trinity or risk its life to save a puppydog (oops, wrong species).<\/p>\n In other words, humans are capable of choosing priorities on which we base our actions. Some part of us is genome robot, but a lot of us is the squirrelly result of too much forebrain.<\/p>\n To argue that “men need sex” and “will go crazy without it” is to argue that men are nothing more than animals; we all know that a human can go without anything (sex, food, water, happiness, love, comfort, whatever) if there’s a good reason.<\/p>\n And a good reason is anything that human finds important — including the doctrine of the Trinity.<\/p>\n So we know that e.g. a human male is quite capable of taking the moral\/social position that women, as fellow human beings, deserve respect and politeness. Accordingly he is capable of suppressing, concealing, or sublimating his sexual interest in women around him, because his moral imperative is more important to him. Or perhaps, to be less charitable, because keeping his job is more important to him. Whatever –a tomcat couldn’t do it, but we can.<\/p>\n But are men really human?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Are men in fact “more like animals” than women? Ah, such a comfy, familiar old theory — but so many counter-examples are readily available (historical and contemporary). The male half of the species doesn’t have to behave like animals… but sometimes they choose to do so.<\/p>\n They choose to do so when they are unwilling to recognize any other higher social priority. “I can’t help myself” really translates into “my responsibility as a human being to behave reasonably and not injure others was way less important to me than my acquisitive or appetitive impulse.”<\/p>\n We’re talking choice here — priorities — decisions. We’re conscious beings, not paramecia.<\/p>\n As an aside… we could also argue that those behaviours in women which are cited as proving that women are “more human”, more civilized, etc. are simply mammalian female behaviours directed towards nurturance and defence of young, education and cultural transmission, etc.<\/p>\n All this would mean is that some female mammal behaviours seem to work better for living together in a state of civilization, which might not be so surprising. In some, but not all, primates you’ll find that the basic social unit is a crowd of females raising their young semi-communally, while wandering males come and go.<\/p>\n Or, we could argue that women have more at stake in preserving civilized conditions, because we’re at a disadvantage when it comes to brute force.<\/p>\n You can go around and around and around this stuff for years, and lots of people have.<\/p>\n Why bother? Is it even relevant? I don’t think that biological imperatives are a suitable ground for anyone, male or female, to stand on when defending their actions or attitudes. What is “natural” to our species bears no necessary relationship to what is “right” for us to do as members of a human society.<\/p>\n![\"8138036_3-men-pick-up-prostitute-pay-her\"](\"http:\/\/costaricasex.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/8138036_3-men-pick-up-prostitute-pay-her.jpg\")
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\nAnd often they choose to use the excuse that men are closer to the animal state, to duck their personal responsibility for anti-social (anti-human) behaviour. “I can’t help myself” is second only to “she asked for it” when rapists justify their offences.<\/p>\n