The question is having sex with a large number (I mean as in little more than one) of women anything to be proud of?
Me, I’ve had sex with a lot of women. And by a lot, I mean a lot. I don’t do numbers because it’s not really my thing. I’ve had sex with prostitutes and regular girls (as is non-prostitutes). Being involved in the adult sexual industry and swinging lifestyle for more than two decades helps. If you’re safe, consensual and upfront with everyone, it’s just sex.
But besides being a monger, I enjoy being polyamorous. After my many sexual experiences, I know that I will never be able to be monogamous with one woman. I variety and different types of women. I would need a partner completely open to living this type of lifestyle with me.
Do I regret being a monger? No. But, I suppose there is great peace in not knowing what you are missing.
Women will quickly judge, the majority don’t think it’s anything for a man to be proud of. I have been called a misogynist, some explaining that my need for variety, to have sex with many women as possible is deep rooted in my hate for women. Could it be true? Nah, they are just trying to shake my branch.
Many women would be freaked out to be with a man like you. Not because you are a monger, rather women will be so intimidated they won’t give you a chance. It’s their own insecurities showing through. They would, their interest is aroused, but just can’t.
Apart from the sheer physical “fun” of it, being involved with so many different women, you do become more experienced and it gives you an understanding of the opposite sex. It’s like driving a variety of different cars, yes the equipment is pretty much the same, but…as the more cars you drive (more women you have sex with) the more you learn. The good and bad, as you know what you should steer clear of.
For example, my preferred profile is slender, petite. But unless you drive home a fatty everyone once in a while, how do you know what you’re not missing? Yes, I’m incorrigible. But this is straight talk.
I’ve never hidden my past from women. Some couldn’t handle it, others didn’t want to handle it. It was my past that attracted them to me in the first place, but didn’t want to get into the fire, so to speak. And that’s the risk you take with being honest. But I see no other way.
In one relationship I told the girl up front, do you want a boyfriend that cheats on you, goes around your back every chance he gets or do we enjoy it together? It would have been much easier had she been bi-sexual, a discussion for another time.
I don’t see the point in lying about one’s past – yes, I’ve had a lot of lovers, sexual partners mostly, it doesn’t make me a better lover, it’s how you connect that makes sex good.
I enjoy variety. Why? Because women are amazing. Nobody can tell you you are wrong and nobody should care either, because sexuality is an individual thing.
Be safe, honest, consensual and treat people how you would want to be treated yourself. Be a ‘ethical monger’.