But a sensitivity for numbers isn’t uniquely human. Tiny guppies and honeybees as well as hyenas and dogs have been found to perceive and act on numerical stimuli. So responding to numbers is an evolved trait we seem
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1. Monogamy ain’t the natural way!
Mention to your spouse that society has conditioned us to value monogamous relationships through TV and the proliferation of the nuclear family. If you really think about it, it’s kinda messed up that we take out sexual cues
]]>TSG Vice – When I lived in Latin America, we have a live-in maid. My ex-wife always dealt with the maid, there was a language barrier for me, and being Nicaraguan, she could communicate with her better.
Maids are usually muchachas (girls) from poor families from villages. Their education was minimal, elementary school at most, employment options few and their salary usually was sent home to the family.
At one point we were in the need of a new maid, the girl we had with us for some time had gone back to
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“A man’s body chemistry changes after orgasm,” says David McKenzie, a sex therapist in Vancouver. “The biochemical prolactin is released, physically altering his body and making him very tired.”
In contrast, women may not orgasm every time they
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In consensually non-monogamous relationships there is an open agreement that one, both, or all individuals involved in a romantic relationship may also have other sexual and/or romantic partners.
But as of late, polyamorous relationships — sometimes referred to among married people as “open relationships” — have gotten a boost of
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Virtually all women wear underwear under a dress or skirt virtually every single time. There are several reasons for not going commando:
- Vaginal discharge: Throughout the cycle varying small amounts of fluid seep out of the vagina as a normal discharge
- Urine: Even with careful cleaning a few drops of the pee can linger and she’d rather it be on her underwear than her leg.
- Infection: Various vaginal infections like BV also cause discharge
Unless she tells you or you’re a creep, doing something particularly nasty like looking up her dress or pulling it, attempting to expose her to find out, there is no way you can know.
And don’t try to ask her straight out, unless you are looking to get slapped or maced. There are no bounds to the wrath of a woman being exposed or humiliated. No Bounds!
Many women are adverse to going commando. There are common misconceptions, some see it as bad for your sexual health or as an indication of promiscuity.
But if you must know, there are several ways for you to know without being a pervert:
- Panty lines. But not all the time. G-strings or thongs rarely leave lines.
- Only if she walks over you. You can’t be called (nor should you feel) you are a pervert if you don’t look away.
- By the look in her eyes. OK, making this one up.
I glanced at the clock on the wall as I dried my hands on a cranberry colored dish towel. It was a quarter to nine, my daughter was already in bed for the night. I opened the door and jumped back as the mid February night air nipped my nose.
There, in the door, stood my handsome neighbor, clutching a bottle of wine in his hands.
I motioned him inside and shut the door behind him.
‘I’m sorry our first meeting was so rushed,’ he apologized. ‘I brought you this wine to welcome you to the neighborhood!’ He handed me the bottle. It was a white wine, I forget the exact name.
‘Thank you!’ I gushed. I reached up to touch my hair, which thankfully was brushed and straightened. I looked much nicer than I did the first time we had met, several weeks prior.
‘Care to join me for a glass?’ I invited.
He followed me into the kitchen, as I popped the cork and poured two glasses.
‘I’m sorry…I’m not much of a wine person,’ he confessed, removing his hat from his head and placing it on the counter.
‘Well, you have to help me toast!’ I said, and handed him a glass.
‘Here’s to new beginnings! And new friends…’ I said. We clinked our glasses together and drank. He drew back from his glass and smiled, his dark eyes crinkling in the corners. ‘This tastes better than I thought it would!’
We stood in the kitchen and drank the rest of the wine. We visited for several hours, and I found myself absolutely entranced with the rich baritone of his voice, the gracefulness of his movements, the easy way he joked and laughed with me.
Something overcame us close to midnight, as we realized the bottle was empty. Heads buzzing, our hearts were happy and my world spun as he went in for a hug.
Lord, that man felt wonderful against me. But I couldn’t begin to guess what he would do next.
He looked deep into my eyes, raised my chin just the littlest bit and kissed me. Slowly and beautifully.
The whole world stopped.
I was a bit saddened when he drew away. But he winked at me, told me he would see me around and left.
The story isn’t over yet, so I can’t exactly end it. Anyways, I digress…
The neighbor and I became…ahem…intimate the next time we met up. He led me to believe that we were getting serious, and then, when I asked for clarification as to what we were, he stated that he just wanted to be friends.
Another girl had broken his heart long ago, and he never really recovered. (Thanks a lot, Amanda! Grr)
I have spent the last four years building an intimate and close friendship with him. This man is almost a part of me at this point. But something continues to hold him back and he just can’t bring himself to commit to me.
I’m at a crossroads with him now. I hate to let him go, but I want a family, a future. He doesn’t.
It’s a hell of a situation to be in.
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- You have a comfort level with older women that you never felt with women your age.
- An older woman does not intimidate you as much as the spring chickens that you’ve seen on campus and in the office
- An older woman’s retirement fund is more than sufficient compensation for her wrinkles and her sagging triceps
- You’ve always had this secret admiration for your mother – the truth is you haven’t outgrown Freud’s Oedipus complex and you fantasize about those things that Freud became famous for
- You savor the experience and wisdom of the older sex
- You love her and her age has nothing to do with a character quirk, a disease or a need for financial security on your part. You love her. Period.
If any of the first four reasons apply to you – be truthful now – then we suggest you have a session with a behavioral therapist.
If you staunchly defend that it’s for reason # 5 above, then we’ll say, “carry on, ole boy!”
Dating an Older Woman – Certainly not a Social Crime
Dating an older woman neither merits a psychological evaluation nor a police clearance. The act itself is not wrong. It’s the reasons behind it, especially if it’s one of the first four above. If younger women who are dating and eventually marrying older men are more the norm than the exception, then there’s no reason why the opposite can’t happen – just as naturally and as easily. Men who like older women should not have to go through a subtle condemnation.
Alright, an older woman makes you really comfortable in her presence. Her age and experience are responsible for those sparkling conversations you have over candlelight dinners. You’re absolutely fascinated with what she knows, what she’s done in her life and where she’s traveled. She does not speak of inanities, does not do foolish things that make a man wince. She seems to be “with it”, totally in control of her gears and bearings, and much as it makes you blush, an older woman definitely has mastered the art of bedtime tricks that you’ve come to enjoy and luxuriate in.
And goodness, that retirement account sure is inspiring. She’s confided in you about her assets and liabilities (very little liabilities if we might add) that you think – and giggle – of your friends who are constantly complaining about how they are getting into debt because their girl their dates don’t like footing the bill. These young chicks need to save their allowance to buy life’s artificial support systems – make up, nose lifts, dermabrasion, leg waxing and overpowering scents that reek of acrylic paint. You’ve told your friends time and again that dating an older woman is different, but they’ve given you the “you nuts” look.
By comparison, your older woman friend stands out. She’s not only financially secure but sports a high emotional IQ. She does not bore you with questions like “am I too fat in this dress?” or “you think I should shave my legs now?” No, she’s past those questions. Even if you gave her an honest answer, she couldn’t care less. She’s probably even forgotten that she asked. Instead, she’ll smile and look at you with pity and say, “why don’t I pick up the tab this time? You’ve probably used up your weekly allowance. My son does it all the time.” She’s compared you to her son – ouch – that’s okay. She has qualities that thrill you no end.
Dating an older woman because you’re secretly in love with your mother means that the Oedipus complex still runs strong in your veins; that is, you haven’t done much growing up in the last few years. You need to play catch up. If you confess to your woman that you’re hung up on her because she reminds you of your mother she’ll find someone else who is really interested in older women. Much as they are emotionally mature, they don’t want to be looked upon as a mother figure – trust us on this one. They want to be thought of as desirable sex objects. Even in their late 40’s or early 50’s. No doubt many of them still hold that magic. Their magic stick is shinier and more efficient than those waved by young women.
It’s what one man said on cyberspace the other day: “Women love to feel appreciated, desired, alive, and when you’re an older single woman, there’s no one better to fill those needs than a man who is a few years younger.”
So…it must take two to tango.
The How-To of Dating an Older Woman
Younger men have been known to be genuinely in love with older women. And they’re well-adjusted too. They show no traces of the Freudian theory, nor are they interested in financial security. And they don’t care if the cellulite shows or the once jet-black hair has turned gray.
Younger men who are genuinely in love with older women are totally blind to their menopausal symptoms, their occasional unavailability (“I’d like to spend Saturday night in the cottage – alone.”) and their complete indifference to the flirting male. Would you believe NOT many of them throw jealous tantrums?
A few would even encourage you to play the field once in awhile.
If the laws of attraction dictate that older women are for you, it might be wise to pay attention to a few “niceties.”
- Age is just a number. If her being older by 10-15-20 years bothers you one bit, then perhaps you’re better off with Tracy or Lisette or Jamie on campus. Stay away from Mrs. Robinson. There may be a generation gap, but this doesn’t hold much weight anymore these days. When you’re having conversations, pay attention to how you respond to her words. Older women have developed some sophistication and will immediately be bored if you can’t carry the conversation off
- Older women appear to be self-confident and poised in thought and deed but a few of them do harbor insecurities because of the competition offered by younger, firmer and sexier women. They still appreciate it when you tell them how fantastic they look and how that dress so becomes them. Be generous with the compliments but make sure they are sincere
- The first few dates may be difficult, only because there’s a need for both of you to adjust to each other. You need not feel you have to act more mature than you are; she may also try to act a little immature just to play the part. She is aware that there is an age gap but if that’s not a problem with her, it shouldn’t be your problem either. Enjoy her company but polish your conversational skills (we keep emphasizing this) as you don’t want her to start thinking that you’re socially backward. Don’t feel that your age and lack of experience are a handicap in your relationship.
- Older women are the product of past dates and marriages. Don’t ask her for a history of her relationships if she’s not inclined to discuss them. Besides, you’d only be reminding her of her bitterness and disappointments. The reason she agreed to go out with you is she wants a break from the past and is ready for another romantic adventure which could very well lead to a mutually satisfying relationship.
- Bear in mind that even if an older woman is not as demanding as a younger woman when it comes to chivalry and gentlemanly habits, cultivate the gentleman in you anyway. In fact, show her your British boarding school manners – a lot of women we know fall for that type of upbringing.
Dating an older woman, like we said, is not a social crime. You have as much right to date someone who attracts you and who fits the bill. You’ll probably have a lot of explaining to do to your family and peers, and maybe go through a little awkwardness in the first few months, but all these “teething problems” should be resolved in no time.
Sweet, young thing: that’s you, buddy!
Read more at https://www.professorshouse.com/dating-an-older-woman/
]]>Think about that! If you are 40, that means by the time you hit 44 you will LOOK and FEEL 48. And by the time you reach 60, you will LOOK and FEEL 70 YEARS OLD! We see this every day… just look around you.
Did you know that 90% of people over the age of 35 lose enough muscle every year to burn off an additional 4 pounds of body fat? That means you not only lose the only thing on your body that creates shape, tone, and strength—you also gain more fat every year, even if your calories stay the same.
Did you know that all of this is reversible at any age? That there are specific ways to move, eat, and think that tell your brain to STOP this rapid aging process… and even SLOW IT DOWN to the point where you’re aging less than a year for every year? That means you can look younger at 40 than you do at 35… or if you’re like Becky and I, younger at 50+ than we did at 40!
This is not fantasy talk. This does not require a boatload of anti-aging drugs, supplements, or gimmicks. And, this works for anyone, male or female, and works at any age. 35, 45, 55, 65, 75… you name it. The biology is exactly the same.
Did you know you can literally reverse the aging process, at least from a cellular level? That means our body’s look, feel, and MOVE younger than our chronological age.
Following are 4 key principles you must apply in order to STOP the rapid onset of aging that’s going on right now, reverse it, and begin “aging backwards” by restoring your body’s natural youth hormones.
That said, we have to warn you: What you are about to hear may go against all the conventional diet and exercise advice you’ve been hearing. That’s because the world has, to be utterly frank, gone soft! “Core training”, hot yoga, spin classes, tai chí all of these are just fine, but they won’t slow your aging, and they certainly will never shape your muscles or burn off stubborn body fat. No way!
These 4 steps reveal the things you absolutely MUST AVOID if you want to slow the aging process, reclaim your health, and achieve your ideal body.
What you need is a splash of cold water, a touch of Old School, and the honest truth.
Sound good? Let’s dive in!
1. Forget Low-Fat Diets
Forget Low Fat! Low fat everything has been the craze now for decades and look around. What has that wonderful bit of advice done for the bodies you see? We’re fatter, sicker, and more addicted to sugar and carbs than any other time in history. And, we’re passing these habits to our kids.
Fats are not to be feared – they’re to be embraced. They do not make you fat; rather, they help your body regenerate your power hormones. Testosterone, the ‘strength’ hormone, for example, is the direct result of cholesterol and dietary fat intake. That’s right: “Cholesterol” isn’t a dirty word! Your body needs dietary fat and cholesterol in order to produce ANY AND ALL vital hormones.
People on low fat diets look drawn, gaunt, and weak. They are often sick, sometimes to the point of literally breaking down. And, they can never just enjoy eating out. Every meal and every gram must be accounted for. Do you really think this will make you younger? Of course not… it will worry you to death if it doesn’t kill you first!
2. Stop Running in Circles
Gym classes can be fun, if you like sitting in one place and torturing yourself. But have you noticed how little people change their bodies in these classes? Sure, it’s good “cardio”, but cardiovascular conditioning can be gained with far less time and effort.
Treadmills, and any form of endurance training (especially running) does very little to help the age reversal process. Many times, these long-duration exercise bouts accelerate the aging process by increasing free radicals. These free radicals are scavengers that prey on your body’s essential nutrients and tissues.
There’s a smart way to exercise… we’ll cover that in a minute. And, what’s wonderful is that it takes you about ¼ the time of traditional workouts. We’ll cover more details on the next page.
3. Stop Blaming Everything On How Old You Are
The guys to the left are not fat because they are old—they’re fat because they eat, think, and move like a fat, old, dying person! Becky and I are both in our 50s—older than the guys in this photo—and I still sport a nice six-pack, and Becky transformed her body from the typical “middle age mom” to a slim, toned, and super-sexy woman who looks 10 years younger. (See the next page for photos!)
Listen: Your body doesn’t own a clock. Studies have shown that men and women in their 90s were able to gain muscle tone in just a matter of weeks of simple weight training. I’ve personally seen men and women transform their physiques at literally all ages—25 to 95!
If you’re around those naysayers who are constantly talking about growing old, all their aches and pains, and how life is just down hill after 40—LEAVE! Surround yourself with positive thinkers who absolutely crave a challenge. A challenge is what keeps you YOUNG, and the best challenge there is happens to be taking control of your health and body.
4. Avoid Chronic Dehydration
Drink Your Water!
Water isn’t just “good for you” — water burns fat. Water suppresses hunger. Water renews your skin. Just drinking 12 ounces of pure water every day can take a few years off your face in a matter of weeks. You’ll also drop fat, have more energy, and save your kidneys and liver from chronic overwork.
When your kidneys are taxed from too little water, your liver has to take over. Now, get this: Your liver is your number one fat-burning organ. Do you REALLY want it processing liquids and toxins rather than BURNING FAT? No way, right? Well, grab a glass of water, and watch the mirror. Within a few weeks, the change to your face and body will be noticeable.
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