Here is the prime directive, applies to monogamous and promiscuous alike: A long distance romance is a VERY BAD IDEA. Not just a bad idea, a VERY bad idea. If you actually want a REAL relationship, you need to actually be in the same locale.
I have talked to WAY too many guys who think they are going to find some 20 year old hottie off some website or in some bar here, bring her back to Corpus Christi or wherever and make all their friends jealous. If that’s your plan, you are in for a rude awakening.
First of all, as yourself what she needs with a guy from the USA? Contrary to popular belief, most girls in Costa Rica don’t want to live in the United States. There are plenty that might like to come up and work, make good money and come back home, but to actually LIVE there? Not appealing. I know a few guys who went through the hassle of getting the K-1 (fiancee) visa, brought their ‘novia’ to the USA, got married, and six months later she split back home to Costa Rica. Why? Suburban life all alone in a foreign country is more like being in prison than being in paradise.
There are MAJOR cultural differences between the average North American man and the average Latin America woman. We may think we admire their ‘family values’ but when you find out you are expected to pay for grandma’s new dentures, birthday cakes for every one of the 20 nephews and nieces she has, the new roof over for her sister’s house and on and on, that particular facet of family values becomes a major source of conflict.
If you are foolish enough to try to keep some sort of relationship going long distance, don’t be surprised if you receive constant RFMs (requests for money). The money requests won’t stop just because you are in Costa Rica, but you can at least verify that they are legit, not just taking you for all they can.
That brings us to another downside of the long distance thing: trust and jealousy. If you are the least bit jealous, you will suffer mightily wondering who your ‘novia’ is boinking while you are slaving away at your job in the USA. Whether or not she’s actually faithful is almost irrelevant, from what I’ve seen. Some guys go into denial even when they hear from a reliable source that their ‘novia’ is out playing around. Other guys have a totally faithful girlfriend but still can’t believe it, and worry themselves to death with suspicion. Either way, you are in for a bad time.
It’s tempting to want to latch on to a girl that is several cuts above what you are used to back home, but if you give in to that temptation you are setting yourself up for a major headaches and heartaches. Much better to have fun when you are here and keep your daydreaming erotic and not let it wander into the ‘romantic’ zone. You’ll be better, off. WAY better off.
