(CR!S) I don’t know about you but more often than not I see guys clueless about the signals women are sending. Sometimes even in places like the infamous Hotel Del Rey, where a pick up is a sure thing and the only thing that matters is the colour of your money.
I have seen many while waiting in line at the supermarket for example, a guys having no clue that the cashier is interested in him, or that hot babe circling the aisles, looking over, moving on and back. Or she will come up to you to ask about a product.
I use the supermarket example because it is the best place to pick up “regular” women in Costa Rica. But, I see this cluelesness happening all over.
To my astonishment, most guys it seems are clueless of the signals sent their way. Here is a collection of stories from women of the mistakes made by men…via AskReddit:
84th_legislature:
Are you doing something that sucks and she’s still here? Like you took her on a date that bombed, like the theater was closed so you had to drive across town to another theater and then had to wait an hour for the movie you planned to see, so you missed the open times for the restaurant you planned and had to get weird 24 hour diner food and she is STILL here with you smiling and looking at you happily and talking?That means she’s interested.
Helaskold:
1. If she is either making a lot of eye contact or avoiding eye contact, she likes you or hates you or neither. Keep your eyes on the prize (or don’t)!
2. Watch for her speech patterns. If she chats you up a lot, she likes you or is just friendly. If she shies away from talking to you, she likes you or maybe doesn’t.
3. Get that text game going, gentleman! A frequent responder definitely might be interested in you or is just talkative! But a girl who doesn’t respond much still might be interested or maybe not though.
4. Caught her staring? Well, I’ve got news for you! She definitely has some sort of feeling about you. Typically it’s either interest or disinterest, or just thinks you are so ugly that it’s intriguing.
fuelgun:
When a girl invites you over for a movie, sits real close, wants to play with your hair, and tells you that she’s thinking about getting her vag waxed, she probably is in to you.
ileeny12:
I text you back every time on time.
Touch. I need to touch your arm.
Making eye contact from the across the room. A lot.
Smiling. Lots and lots of smiling. Like for no reason.
I_EAT_MANY_TACOS:
Going out of their way to spend time with you
Touching
Playing with their hair
Offering to cook for you (seriously, you’re good to go most times on this one)
Suggesting fun things to do together with just the two of you
Inviting you to her place alone (very high chance of getting laid)
YellowTealBox:
Personally, I stand a lot closer. Like, really close.
Also I seek you out more often to talk. Did I come over to ask what you’re doing for the 20th time today? I’ve got a crush.
Wilsander:
If she doesn’t look at you with disgust, that’s a start.
masshamacide:
If we drag you along to any event or place– we like you.
UnnamedNamesake:
If I’m riding you, you can assume I like you.
Sharkoh:
If she has an honest laugh at one of your dumb jokes.
If she touches your hand/arm for no discernible reason
If she says fuck me daddy
Serdaigle15:
she touches her hair when you talk to her
she find excuses to be with you (school project, next to each other at bus)
she laughs at your jokes
she tells you emotional stories that happened to her, and only a few people know
she texts you good morning, and you are the person she texts constantly
she likes all your stuff on facebook, even this buzzfeed article you shared
bellalama:
I’m a woman and I’m not going to speak on behalf of all women, but these are true for me:
If I smile/laugh around you a lot. Just naturally. I have an “easy laugh”, but if I really laugh at a lot of what you say, I like you… a lot. I think for me it’s true in how much I smile around someone, and if my laugh sounds a bit breathy. When I genuinely laugh, I definitely sound like I’m a bit out of breath. I need this one – I need someone whose sense of humour goes well with mine. If we can’t joke with each other or laugh at the same kinds of things, we’re doomed lol.
If I don’t know you yet, I may not be good at eye contact. Once we’ve spoken and stuff, I will hold eye contact. I’ve had times where I held eye contact with someone before I knew them, but that can be hard for me sometimes before I’ve gotten to talking to someone. Just shyness maybe.
If I lick my lips/bite my lips or play with my lips at all.
Texting-wise… my response rate varies. But if I’m sending you a🙂 or pleasant messages, it means I want to continue talking. If it’s just “cool. good luck” or something, I’m not into it. But I wouldn’t put too much weight into response rate for me at least.
If I feel comfortable touching you, or you touching me. If I hold your arm or something, that means I wanna see you naked (LOL). +100 pts for me touching your thigh or knee area. That is 100% a “I wanna get with you”. I’m not touchy with people I don’t have that bond with, but when I feel it, I’ll be really touchy.
I generally dress myself well and all, but if I put an effort to look extra sexy around you, it’s probably because I like you. I’m comfortable in sweats, too, so putting that a dress on = I LIKE YOU.
Commit some or all of this knowledge to memory. Use it. You will have a more fruitful sex life. Guaranteed.
There are many more of these responses over at Reddit you can read all of them HERE.