(CR!S) As an expat monger man myself I’ve battled with my fair share of depression, thus I feel qualified to write about this subject.
It is said that men in general suffer depression less than women. Personally, moving and living in a foreign country, away from family, friends and the familiar, can lead to depression setting in
Isolation is at the top of my list reasons why expat monger men get depressed. But it can be overcome. Expat monger men who are not working or have purpose to their day in expat land have a tendency to isolate. Learning a new language and find friends to connect with can be overwhelming. If the isolation continues for too long (depending on the individual) depression can set in.
Find something to do, something you love, involves other people and not just the working girls for the hourly session. Hanging out at known monger bars can be healthy. Getting out of your comfort zone, even for short periods, connecting with other expats is a must. But just connecting is not enough, establishing relationships, bonds, sharing similar interests, is very important.
Routines are a killer. Shake things up, don’t be visiting the same bar, same massage parlour, same working girl. At the usual same time of day or night. Sometimes the routine seems comforting, familiar, therein lies the danger.
You have to get the blood pumping, the hydraulic system working, release the pent-up stress and tension of daily life as an expart monger man in expat land. Visit a new bar, that massage parlour you’ve heard so much about, call the number of the girl your new found friends have been raving baout. Get distracted by someone different today and tomorrow and the next.
You’re not only an expat, if you are reading this, you are a monger. Stop judging or criticizing yourself for that. There is nothing wrong with being a monger.
Many expat monger men have unreasonable high expectations of themselves and those they associate with. Anything short of perfection can get you down on yourself.
You don’t have to appear to have it all together. Don’t feel that everyone else has it together except you, believe me they don’t. I’ve had the privilege of knowing many expat monger men whom I thought had it all together, later to learn they were just like me.
Since it’s impossible to really know what’s in the head of a fellow monger, I suggest you stop comparing. Focus on your well-being, your needs, your wants and desires. It’s pure myth your fellow mongers aren’t feeling the same way, that they have their shit together and you don’t.
Depression can be devastating. It doesn’t matter if you are young or experienced expat monger man, feelings of depression can be overwhelming. Dealing with them, taking my suggestions and monitoring your negativity, you’ll be surprised at much better you will feel.